source Parenting seems to be the most technical and complicated job I can think of. I mean, you conceive, birth the child, nurture him/her from childhood till they reach adulthood, which sounds overwhelming and too much to manage. During this whole process, you may forego as well as embrace specific behaviors, values, and other things in order to create a conducive atmosphere for the child's upbringing. As I said before, parenting is a highly difficult job that demands a variety of tasks and efforts. For instance, you have to care and nurture the child, provide their basic needs, pay attention to them, scold and discipline them and many more. You know, striking the balance between your busy schedules trying to earn a living and paying full attention to your child seems to be a big deal. With time, I came to understand this and stopped blaming my parents for not recognizing the majority of my struggles.
Striking the balance between your busy schedules and paying attention to your child can be hard most times*
Undoubtedly, they were ensuring that I had all I had to be comfortable, but I yearned for their attention. My parents, particularly my mother, are quite strict. Because of the scary environment that has been created, I find it very difficult to speak with her. My dad and I talk more, although still not as much as I want it to be . Most parents choose to hire a maid or nanny to take care of their kids, which in some way has weakened the bonding between the child and the parents.
I recall an awful incident that occurred while I was growing up. On that day, my parents went about their regular work activities as normal, leaving me at home with my uncle who was living with us. I had a buddy close by, so I asked my uncle if I could go play with him. Thankfully, he said OK, so I headed over to my friend's house. We were playing when he suddenly said he wanted to show me something he saw someone in his compound do one time. He tore a piece of paper out, wrapped it up with some dry leaves inside, lighted it with a lighter, and began smoking. Obviously, he asked me to give it a go. I gave it a try out of pressure even though
I knew it was harmful for my health. I began choking and almost gave up. It became so bad, and I was afraid to tell my parents because of the fear that they would punish me more than the choking I was already experiencing. I have kept the incident hidden from them to this day because I didn't want to be judged and that atmosphere was not created in which I can openly speak to them.
Based on my experiences as a kid and an adult now, I believe that a parent should be able to foster an atmosphere where their child can open up to them about any aspect of their life without worrying about being judged. Most kids, particularly teenagers, suffer from anxiety and depression but are unable to speak out or open up to their parents, or, worse, they have more trust in an outsider than their parents, which is not a good thing.
The environment matters alot
Another is that a child's surroundings have a major role in how well they develop. I reside in a suburban area, yet there is still a nasty neighborhood with tough people, drug dealers, etcetera. I was talking to a female friend earlier last week who is a parent and lives in the same neighborhood as me. She said she wants to move out because of her child. Because of the awful things that happen there, the area doesn't seem comfortable or suitable for raising a kid, so she wants to leave, and I told her it was a wonderful idea.
Good parenting can be rewarding and sounds fufilling
However, parenting can be rewarding too, seeing your child doing pretty well and you becoming proud of him/her, it feels fulfilling. Good parenting is easy to achieve,all it requires is patience, understanding your kid, guidance, don't be too strict, discipline your child when necessary but not every time, there are some matters that require you to just sit them down and talk to them with love not scolding all the time and many others.
Well, with that being said, Do have a nice day.
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